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Successful Dating Experience

What do you do when a lady says to you, “ I am gradually shaping myself to your taste” or  “I don’t think about you because you’ve not defined our relationship” 

Many of us these days often try as much as we can not to move closer to a lady for misconception of purpose and many ladies also can not even move close to men out there, also for misconception of purpose but success can only be achieved when purpose and values are known (see Values; I think you should know me).

I often rheas in my mind consciously what I want in a lady and who I want but do not try the mistakes of testing or sampling relationships, thank God for my kind of environment where taking a lady out for lunch does not imply anything. Note the fact that I said lunch and not dinner, but my major point here is that; he wants you does not mean you should accept him when you don’t want him to be more than a friend and she wants you does not also mean you should accept her when you don’t want her to be more than a friend.

When we constantly rheas our standard which is greatly influenced by our beliefs which are also emotional based. Just nobody will fit in. This shows desperation on our part when we accept anybody and the result is often not pleasant because disappointment is often inevitable. Don’t forget that everybody is cool and wonderful but for specific individuals based on our levels.

The mistake many make is choosing a partner when things, situations don’t really work in their favour and often time, many choose out of their lost taste. My point is not that you should not choose when things don’t work well but what you should avoid is losing your taste and your original standard if favourable at those times.

Standard is always difficult to create but always very easy to break. It takes purpose driven attitude to maintain a standard.

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Successful Dating Experience 

I believe you must have read the article Values but the fact I did not mention is that often times many ladies seem to accept date from someone that does not appreciate them or someone they don’t appreciate but because of the physical cash and the fleshes involved. It also happens to gent also, but worst because most often give out themselves to ladies cheaply. 

My major point here actually will be centered on either of the sexes saying yes because in some environment, it is nothing for the woman to approach a man she wants while it is not common in many other environment, like in the environment I grew, even though women have approached me several times, it’s still not common.

I will try as much as I can never to get into dos and don’t except when it comes to personal counseling in a specific situation because they only create limitations to individuals seeking improvement in their dating experience.

Ladies however, make mistakes when it comes to more serious issues like “when to say yes”. some believe saying yes to a man the very first day he shows interest in words only imply been seen as cheap but the opposite is the case as far as am concerned. I believe the old ways of doing things should gradually give way to new ways that needs to be adopted by many for desired result.

A friend of mine told me recently about a brother who I will call A, who proposed to a lady I’ll call B, in a church but the lady turned him down but few months later, after brother A was already engaged to another sister C, then sister A reported brother B to the church pastor and when brother B was asked why he decided to get engaged to sister C, his reply was that sister A turned him down but sister C never turned him down and when sister A answered, she said she wanted to say yes the second time because she has to behave like a woman should, but brother B never thought of the second time when sisters were much around.

I believe the issue of been cheap should be left until the dating process start. Many don’t say yes on the first date but end up giving themselves cheep when it comes to sex to men/women who later dump them, while many will say yes on the first date just because of the likeness or love they have for whoever is involved but have created standard for themselves which they don’t break until the desired time.

I believe we need to be more direct and focus in everything we want and do.

People always want to be around those that are not boring, people also appreciate those that are very calm and quiet but I believe people prefer those that are not predictable most especially when dating is concerned. 

Knowing when to say yes is however, not general to all dating experiences but varies depending on what and the individual involved.   

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